How people that trigger you can be a blessing in disguise…
Els De Schaepmeester
None of us deliberately seek out other people that trigger or annoy us.
But it happens to all of us from time to time.Sometimes it’s a family member, sometimes a friend, and very often a colleague or a supervisor.
Over the years I’ve trained myself in dealing with such situations differently. In order to move away from a situation of ‘powerlessness’, I’ve found it can be very helpful to realize that:
a) Even if their behavior seems inappropriate and irrational to you, they usually have too much of a thing that you need more of in your life…
b) They very likely carry a pain inside of them that you know nothing about. And – just like you – they are simply trying to make the best of it…
Realizing that the person who triggers you has in fact something to ‘offer’ you, something that you need to make peace with in order to enter the next stage of your growth, makes them a lot more ‘tolerable’. This doesn’t mean that you need to become like them, it just means that you start seeing that there are things that you are avoiding inside yourself.
To quote author and poetess Maya Angelou: “We are more alike, my friends, than we are unalike”…
© Els De Schaepmeester
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